Why can't we be friends?

I have a curse, the curse of being friendly. I am happy to report that I pretty much get along with everyone, and try to find mutual grounds with people I encounter and especially those that are in the same circle of friends I have. I especially get along really well with men. I think most women are this way, for whatever reason it's more comfortable. This has somehow back fired. When I befriend a man in my life that I want to keep in that status, I make it very clear on why they are in that position. It's normally because they aren't my type so I make a point to describe my type so their feelings aren't hurt. I have several male friends and they are "all good" with being just friends. However, last night I was put in a situation that was very awkward. I was invited to hang out with a new friend (we both agreed it was just as friends), as the night progressed he started becoming honest with his feelings. I made it clear again, that I just wasn't feeling the same. Then horror...He tried to kiss me. We've been friends for a little over a month now and I had to straight up reject, deny the dude. Now it's all awkward. I must say that it felt good to stand my ground, and I would hope that he respected me more for not...but I feel like I hurt his feelings. That's one thing I'm not ok with but I have nothing to apologize for. So the ones I don't want to be "just friends" with aren't digging and the ones I want to be "just friends" are. This dating thing gets more confusing everyday and I've been at it for almost a year.

The Hang Out vs. The Date

There is a huge difference between "hanging out" and a "date", and quite frankly I love the "Hang Out"!! Yes, it's just the two of you but it's like a no pressure date. Just hanging out, shooting the shit, and not being fake. I can't beat this with a stick! The honest truth of it is...I despise the thaught of going on a date. You get in these long discussions of where you are going to eat, you get all fixed up, and on top of it all your so jacked up on nerves you truly don't have a good time! Yes, give me the "hey I'm over at such and such restaurant/bar wanna meet up?" Absolutely and I'll be wearing jeans and a t-shirt! It's Spring Folks and I can't think of a better time for this quazi dating! So let the truth be known...I have been on "hang outs"! Yup, I said it and it was fun, carefree and just overall couldn't think of a better way to get to know these guys! It's also working as a great bridge for me who is still perhaps stupidly in love with my ex to get over it! I hope to go on some more "hang outs" soon and maybe with the same people. Added Bonus: If they are major a-holes, bore you, or just not feelin' it you don't have to deal with rejecting them or vice versa (but its never that way....right?). I think I'm gonna start making my own dating rules...and that means not doing it at all (at least for now!)! So you wanna hang out?