Why can't we be friends?

I have a curse, the curse of being friendly. I am happy to report that I pretty much get along with everyone, and try to find mutual grounds with people I encounter and especially those that are in the same circle of friends I have. I especially get along really well with men. I think most women are this way, for whatever reason it's more comfortable. This has somehow back fired. When I befriend a man in my life that I want to keep in that status, I make it very clear on why they are in that position. It's normally because they aren't my type so I make a point to describe my type so their feelings aren't hurt. I have several male friends and they are "all good" with being just friends. However, last night I was put in a situation that was very awkward. I was invited to hang out with a new friend (we both agreed it was just as friends), as the night progressed he started becoming honest with his feelings. I made it clear again, that I just wasn't feeling the same. Then horror...He tried to kiss me. We've been friends for a little over a month now and I had to straight up reject, deny the dude. Now it's all awkward. I must say that it felt good to stand my ground, and I would hope that he respected me more for not...but I feel like I hurt his feelings. That's one thing I'm not ok with but I have nothing to apologize for. So the ones I don't want to be "just friends" with aren't digging and the ones I want to be "just friends" are. This dating thing gets more confusing everyday and I've been at it for almost a year.

Has the Dating Game Changed or Does it Depend on the Men?

Life when you are trying to settle into a new city...well is a little hectic mixed with the holidays and visitors. Oh and boy did I have a visitor for the holidays....the EX!! So you may be wondering how it went...not to bad and confusing as hell! First night dinner and kissing, second night relaxing, third night fighting, fourth night him complaining about life, fifth night...realized I was over him. Now...he apparently is not over me! What is with this game we All play?! I don't want you...you want me. I want you...you don't want me. AGHHH! So I decided to get back on the dating train of flakes. No new outcomes to report! However..the proof of games continues. The guy that I fell for when I first moved here who fell off the face of the earth came back into the picture this past week. We went out and again we just click and the butterflies came back...yet we are playing cat and mouse again. It came to a head today...I was fed up with games! I asked two men, and two women on their opinions about chasing a man. The woman ALL said let him chase you, ALL the guys said...if you are thinking about him let him know! So I did and the response wasn't all that bad. No follow date is planned but we did communicate for about an hour. So ladies have we been sabotaging our own love lives because we've always been told to be hunted or has it changed? Perhaps its the man or maybe the location? All I know is I have decided to stop hiding what I'm feeling...if I feel it I will let you know but will keep it to a minimal amount...Playing the fence I suppose. I'll keep you updated how this new strategy goes! I'm all for rewriting dating etiquette!